How to Overcome Women’s Insecurities

Women’s insecurities can cause you to act uncharacteristically. Insecurity can make you want to hide, isolate yourself at home, and miss your family’s special events. It can cause you to lash out at others to make yourself feel better, criticize and judge others, and assume the worst about people and situations. Insecurity stops you from enjoying life to the fullest.

The good news is that you can overcome women’s insecurities and live a life of confidence. You already know how insecurity affects your life. Maybe you find it difficult to speak up for yourself. Or you avoid shopping inside stores because you feel uncomfortable in crowds. Perhaps you have caught yourself with pessimistic thoughts and negative assumptions and want to change.

You can overcome women’s insecurities by creating new habits, changing your thinking, and asking for help.

Practice self-care for women’s insecurities.

Self-care is the practice of placing your needs first. It is not a selfish act but a necessary one to protect your physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual health. It can include tasks like getting your hair and nails done. It can also involve attending all annual medical appointments and screenings, reading a devotional and your Bible daily, creating a nighttime routine to ensure you relax before bed, and revisiting a hobby.

Self-care is what you make of it. If you have prioritized others’ needs above your own, taking time out for yourself might seem uncomfortable initially. Start small. Take yourself out on a lunch date or visit a store that sells items for a hobby you love. Make a list of self-care ideas in each area: physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual.

Take stock of the signs of women’s insecurities.

Have you noticed the signs of women’s insecurities in your own life? Do you criticize others? Do you jump to negative conclusions? Do you post images on social media and then feel depressed if not that many people respond? What thoughts go through your mind during these times?

It is time to take stock of the signs of insecurity in your life. Challenge negative thoughts and beliefs. You may not have realized that a thought precedes your behavior. Slow down and identify those thoughts and feelings. Are you feeling unsure of yourself? What can you do to feel more confident without tearing others down?

Identify your triggers.

What triggers your insecurities? Do specific people, situations, events, or locations worsen your insecurities? Until you are ready for counseling to help you through these triggers, can you make changes to avoid them or limit exposure?

To limit exposure to a trigger, you may need to decrease the amount of time you spend with certain people or shop at a larger store on less busy days and times. If social media is a trigger, unfollow accounts that increase anxiety or limit your time on platforms.

Practice gratitude.

Insecurities are born from a constant inner focus. We worry about what other people think or how they perceive us, which changes how we perceive ourselves. To move outside of yourself, practice gratitude.

When you practice being grateful for God’s blessings, your mind shifts. Keep a journal of blessings and list three to five every day. Go to God in prayer, thank Him for His blessings, and ask Him to strengthen your resolve to get outside of insecurity to fulfill God’s purpose.

Acknowledge the good.

When you feel like you cannot seem to do anything, list your accomplishments up to now. What positive traits do you hold? Maybe you persevere in the face of adversity. Perhaps your organizational skills keep your household running.

Acknowledge your good and positive traits. We often forget how far we have come or what we have done in the past. Keep a journal with your positive character traits and achievements to look back over when feeling down.

Seek counseling for women’s insecurities.

Insecurities can take a toll on your mental health, feeding anxiety and depression. You can develop phobias or lose friendships if your insecurity is allowed to grow. A counselor can get to the bottom of what triggered insecurity and recommend behavioral and mindset changes.

Your counselor will assign “homework” – an opportunity to practice what you have learned in your sessions. The two of you will discuss how the suggestion worked and what may need to be changed until you have the upper hand on insecurity.

Are you looking for a counselor?

You are not alone in fighting women’s insecurities. Counselors are well-versed in how insecurity affects daily activities, work, and relationships. Contact our office at California Christian Counseling today to get connected with a counselor. Confidence can be yours. Take the first step and contact us at California Christian Counseling.